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First, in order to clear yourself and regain yourself, you must rid
yourself of the chemical addiction, and this is done through abstinence.
This is true for any addiction, incidentally. If you continue to allow
yourself any of it, your body will continue to crave it. But if you
refuse to give in to the cravings even one bit, eventually, your body
will tire of the situation and the cravings will end.
And so what is it you are doing that you must stop? You must stop
daydreaming. You must stop thinking about him. For it is true, is it
not, that one of the reasons you still daydream is that when you do,
these chemicals are released into your body and you can feel again some
of the wonder. Of course now it has turned bittersweet. Now, along
with the vestiges of joy and love, you also feel the pain, the loss, and
then the tears fall. But even this is life, even this is living and it
feels better to you than the emptiness of simply being alone. And so
now you are addicted to the drug of pain as well as what is left of the
feeling of being in love which you treasured so.
So the first thing you must do, right now, is make a commitment not to
daydream of him, ever again. Right now. Not to think of him at all.
And certainly not to daydream. Make that commitment, and when the
thoughts pop into your head, immediately say, "Go away." Gently tell
your mind, "Go away." And then move your thinking back into your
present situation.
And this is the next thing, of course, and that is to live in the
present. When your mind moves to the past and all of your regrets,
worrying over each thing you said and did, wondering if that was the
thing that made it all go wrong, just tell your mind, "Hush. Hush now."
And move back into the present. "Not now," you may say. Whatever
works for you. "Not now." "Hush." "Go away." "Leave me in peace."
Find the phrase which works for you, and use it gently but firmly.
Get your mind under control.And when your mind wants to dwell on the perceived sorrows of the
future, the lonely days stretching out before you, just refuse this
adventure. Say, "Not now, thank you," and pull yourself into the
present.
In the present, life is good. In the present, the sun is shining
overhead, beautiful clouds float over, a tree spreads her branches and
beckons you to lie beneath them and read a wonderful book. In the
present, your dog would love to have a walk and the cat would like to
be petted. Move into this world, the present. It holds all of the
healing.
And now, in this present, you must begin to build your center back up.
As we discussed yesterday, you have given parts of yourself away. You
have given your heart thinking it was safe, and now you are desperate
to get it back. Of course you are. But you will not regain it from him.
You must get it back from yourself, by reaching your own center, your
own central core, your own spiritual soul self. So do this by writing in a journal each day, three pages of
stream-of-consciousness, to clear your mind. Then breathe deeply and
close your eyes and picture a peaceful scene, like a placid lake. When
you are feeling relaxed, shift your attention up over the crown of your
head and allow the golden energy of your soul self to pour down into you
and refresh you, recharge you, bring you back to yourself. Do this
every morning to build up your central core and return to yourself all
that is truly yours.
And then, through the day, watch your mind, patrol it zealously. Do not
allow those thoughts to enter. And over time, they will simply disappear.
Make a commitment to being in the now, silence the painful
thoughts, and that will help.
Is this difficult? Does all of this require character? Yes, it does.
It requires courage and character, which are wonderful attributes to
build up in yourself. Take it on. Accept this as part of your path, to
have this experience and build up the character which will be required
to overcome it.
I promise you, a day will come when this will be completely behind you,
if you will follow these steps. You will recover, and one day you will
awaken in the morning to the sound of the birds and thank God for being
alive one more day and for the beauties and wonders which lie all around
you, waiting to be picked up and savored.
If you can remember only one thing, remember this: Now is all that
counts. This moment. Right now. That is all that counts. The rest
is illusion.
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