Have You Taken the Time to Really Listen
A friend came to me today and needed to talk.
As I sat listening, I wondered just how many times
I had said, "If you need me, I'm here for you". As
this friend began telling me what the problem was,
I realized, I was tuning out and turning off. As I
watched what was being written, my mind wandered.
I thought to myself, this is such a small problem
compared to what I am facing right now, why do I
waste my time? But then something was said that
grabbed me and moved me. This friend described how
much turmoil had come into her life and how she
just felt so alone. How she didn't think she
wanted to continue living. At this point, I
struggled for words to tell her,"NO! That was not
the solution". I even said, "You have many who
care for you and are here for you"....see, there
it was again, that old phrase, but is it really
true? Do we just express empty words that have no
real meaning? Do we just say them because, at the
time ,they seem appropriate? Do we REALLY mean
these words? So many come to trust one another,
why we even share our deepest, darkest secrets and
at times these secrets become known to all. Is
this the way it should be?
After much time and effort, I really began to
listen and pay attention. My inner voice said,
"Hey, this time, this one is for real. She is
really serious and she has come to me because I
said I will be here for you." We talked a long
while and after much discussion, she understood,
there was someone to reach out to and someone who
would make a difference and just listen. And I
realized, it doesn't take much time or effort to
be there when a friend needs me. My troubles may
seem larger than life, but maybe, just maybe, that
one time I ignore a plea for help, is the one time
it is REALLY needed.
So, next time you say those few simple
words,"If you need me, I am here for you", think
about it....Do you really have the time and are
you really there? It may make the difference in
someone else's life.
Arthor Unknown...