včasih je dobro postaviti ščit okoli srca,ampak težko ga je potem zrušiti...in kaj se dogaja za zidom....tudi tam nismo varni pred svojimi strahovi...

stoyci:
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v cem pa se razlikujeta, človek ki nekoga ponižuje, in človek ki želi ponizevanje nekomu ?

mind je napisal:

"v cem pa se razlikujeta, človek ki nekoga ponižuje, in človek ki želi ponizevanje nekomu ?"

razlika je velika,
če nekomu nekaj slabega želiš, še
ni rečeno, da se bo kaj od tega res uresničilo,
razen to,
da boš svojo negativnost,
ki jo gojiš do drugega moral požreti sam,

druga stvar je pa
če nekoga direktno verbalno, ali pismeno užališ
in s tem drugemu povzročiš trpljenje,
ki se ti kot bumerang prej ali slej vrne,

skratka v obeh primerih delaš škodo samemu sebi,
ampak v drugem primeru pa sebi dosti večjo

vsako žaljenje je posledica človekove nevednosti, ali nepoznavanja samega sebe in svojega bistva.
 

mind, kaj bi resnično ti rad izvedel oziroma vprašal?

mind:"mene zanima, če tebi dajeta ti dve možnosti, kjer v vsakem primeru škodiš sebi notranje zadovoljstvo in mir
zanima pa me tudi, kakšno vlogo ima Bog v naših življenjih

moj odgovor:
govorim o dveh različnih stvareh
notranjih in zunanjih:

notranje zadovoljstvo in mir
je posledica dela na sebi,
oziroma poglabljanja vase,

zunanja pa so
besede in dejanja

vendar delovati v svetu tako,
da nikakor ne škoduješ samemu sebi in drugim,
je skoraj nemogoče,
razen če se popolnoma zapreš
pred zunanjim svetom.

Vedno pa imaš izbiro,
da v kolikor se ne moreš temu izogniti  
izbereš take besede in taka dejanja,
ki so zate manj škodljiva in manj stresna.

in kakšno vlogo ima Bog v naših življenjih?

če vzameš, da je tvoj Bog
tvoja najiskrenejša resnica,
tvoj intimni notranji mir
in tvoja ljubezen do vsega,
potem vso,

če pa vzameš,
da tvoj Bog ni nič od tega,
potem pač nič,
skratka kot vedno,
stvar tvoje notranje in zunanje izbire.

Tip dobr pove tole.


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When Positive Thinking Doesn't Work

by Michael Carpenter


We've all heard it said: "Think positive, think positive, think positive!" The fact of the matter is that forcing ourselves to think positive has very little value when it comes to making any permanent changes in our lives. Sure, we can force ourselves to think positive for a few minutes or a day, but as soon as we encounter any type of obstacle, opposition, or friction, positive thinking goes right out the door. Or for those of us who are truly determined, we continue to try to force ourselves to think positive in light of the fact that we are not feeling positive at all.

But we must try to stay positive right? If we continue to think positive, sooner or later, we will become more positive and our lives will be better. Right? Well, that's what most of us have been told. However, the fact is that forcing ourselves to think positive, for the most part, usually results in frustration and losing faith in the power of thought. The key lies in consciously re-creating yourself to become a positive person. Once you become a positive person, the positive thoughts happen spontaneously. It is not something you force yourself to do, but rather someone you have become.

Most of us operate in something I call "automatic," and we operate in this mode most of the time. When we are in this mode, we are literally not conscious of everything that we are thinking, saying and doing. We are operating from our "software for creation." The only way that we can truly think positive is when our "software" has become positive. That way there is no effort needed. That way, even when we are operating on automatic, we are still producing positive thoughts, words and actions.

It all starts by becoming consciously aware, or going on what I call "manual" to discover the "conflicting software" or "bugs" that are keeping us from being positive. Then one by one, we can reprogram these bugs so that our "software for creation" becomes more and more positive. This is not something that happens overnight, of course. The more bugs we are able to find and reprogram, the more positive we become. The more positive we become, the more we begin to react or act in a positive way without any effort.

I think this is exactly why people give up. They've been told to think positive and everything will change. At the first sign of a "problem," they realize that the only way for them to think positive at that moment is to force themselves to do it. Of course it doesn't feel right, creates frustration, and has the exact opposite effect of what was originally intended. The next thing you know, this individual is thinking that this positive thinking "stuff" just doesn't work. This is a true-life tragedy, of course, because this person may never again realize, or make an attempt at applying, the true power of thought.

The question is not, "How can I think positive?" The question is "Why am I not already thinking positive?" Why is my natural reaction to this event, person or experience expressed in a negative way? As soon as we start dealing with the answers to these questions, we get closer to creating a more positive being, which will spontaneously create the positive thoughts we want in the first place.

We must remember that we create our world from the inside out, and not the other way around. Trying to force ourselves to think positive when it's not what we are feeling inside is kind of like asking a cat to bark like a dog. Meow!

Michael Carpenter is an empowerment coach, speaker and author. He has been living with his wife and two sons for the last 10 years in the beautiful mountains of British Columbia. He has been speaking and facilitating workshops since 1994, and has been published internationally. He has overcome major obstacles, and has now dedicated his life to helping others do the same.