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Sexuality and Intimacy
(Number 12 in the Continuing Series about Relationship)
Everyone is working with, and to some degree, struggling with this divine expression of love called sex, or as I prefer to call it, making love, although I think that there is a definite distinction between the two.
Making Love is probably the most intimate thing that you can do on planet earth, so naturally everyone has some dramas about it. I am an intimacy junky, I am always on the search for the highest levels of intimacy possible with everyone. And because of my intimacy addiction I personally enjoy making love more than just about anything on planet earth, although I have let go of this addiction to a large degree.
Everything is about sex just as Freud postulated, all psychic sexual energy is about relationship and intimacy. Sex is about intimacy, intimacy is about relationship; relationship is the expression of divinity; sex is creation; life is creation; enlightenment and ascension are about creation; sex is an expression of intimacy with the entire universe, of love and oneness with All That Is.
Committing yourself sexually is no different to committing yourself in any other way. It is, or should be, an expression of the commitment you have to yourself, to the honor, respect and love you have for yourself, and in turn expressed outwardly toward another person who evokes, honors, and respects and loves your magnificence.
For real Love making you must expose yourself, inside and out. You must completely open up on all levels. Love making creates deep energetic connections. It connects up your chakras and light bodies; it makes deep psychic connections, and hooks you up genetically and karmically. This is why relationships become much more entwined when making love as opposed to "just being friends", and why "breaking up is so hard to do".
When you say yes to making love, you are saying yes to all of these connections, and yes to interacting on all the deep levels that follow. It opens up past lives together, consciously or unconsciously, and brings up all of your wounds of separation, relationship and sexual traumas across time and space. This is why we always manifest a relationship that matches the level of evolvement we are currently on, moving to, or are done with. Whatever aspects of our beingness, including wounds from this lifetime, on this planet, other planets, other dimensions, other bodies, across space time and dimension, are evoked for you to either deal with and heal, or deny.
This includes your soul extensions, soul fragments….; beings that are part of your soul family, even parts of your self that you and your soul extensions have left in other galaxies, other dimensions…that are in need of healing because of traumas they have experienced that they cannot or will not deal with. Because of your awareness, and the fact that they are part of your wholeness, you will heal them or help them to heal them, for themselves and for you, because of your connection to them and for the whole soul and Monad (group soul). So Divine Relationship, and divine Sexuality, is saying yes to full presence, with yourself and with another person, with all aspects of your beingness and all aspects of the beingness of your mate.
Making Love in Every Moment
I believe that everyone should live life like every day they are making love. Every moment of every day, you must live like you are making love. Everything you do should have the same sensitivity and awareness as when you are making love. If everyone lived their lives in this manner, heaven on earth would surely be here; peace and love would reign supreme.
Real love making is the kind where you are completely in the moment with your lover; totally in the moment with every nuance, every touch, every stroke; with no intentions, no desires; where you are not trying to cause anything, or get anything. And if you live life like this then a tree is your lover; a rock is your lover; a flower is your lover; the grass and clouds are your lover; the wind is your lover…; everyone and everything is your lover - your beloved.
Make love to your computer, make love to your car, make love to the xerox copier, make love to your pets, make love to all animals, make love to the angels, make love to the Ascended Masters, make love to the check out person… and of course, not in any old way. Make love with them, don't sex them. You don't make sex, sex should happen as a natural part of making love, directed only by the synergy, by the synchronis energy; just because it is the next thing to do to complete the synergy, to honor the synergy, to honor the union of the divine masculine and feminine, which is its true intention even in same sex bodies.
Sex and Intimacy
I believe that all people are just as addicted to intimacy as myself, they just don't know it, do not allow themselves to experience it, and more than likely, feel that they do not deserve it. This is the root of all intimacy problems, fear. Fear that they are not good enough; fear that they are bad; fear that they do not deserve to be loved and nurtured and cared for.
All sexual intimacy difficulties stem from these problems. It is everyone’s natural tendency to be affectionate, sensual and sexual. Anyone that is not, has got intimacy and unworthiness issues that they have not dealt with. I know that everyone loves to be touched, and shnuggled, and stroked, and kissed. Anyone that does not, is in some form of denial of physicality, based on some fear program and past karmic issues.
Sexuality aside, I believe that it is everyone’s natural tendency to want to experience as much shnuggling as they can. I am not convinced that some people are more affectionate than others, and enjoy affection more. The only difference between people is the level of intimacy and love that they allow themselves to experience and express. Giving and receiving affection is then a direct manifestation of these inner qualities and abilities to give and receive love.
It is natural that when you love someone you would want to hug them and shnuggle them for a long time. Depending on how much you allow yourself to experience the intimacy of it, will be the degree to which you allow yourself to experience affection, if you have someone to experience it with. If you have a lover, it is a natural tendency to be extremely affectionate. If both people are comfortable with giving and receiving love, they will not be able to keep their hands off of each other.
Love making should be greatly honored, it is a wonderful creation of intimacy. It is an expression of creativity itself. I recommend to everyone, to make love as often as possible and as long as possible. Your focus should be on the moment, the sensuality of the moment; the intimacy of the moment; the emotion of the moment; the ecstasy of the moment; the divinity of the moment. Result should not be a consideration. Orgasm will naturally be less important if you make love in the moment, with the utmost in intimacy, then every moment will be orgasmic. Every kiss, every touch, every stroke, every lick will be orgasmic.
Open up your entire chakra system when you make love. Connect your genitals with your heart. Make love with your heart not your genitals. Look deeply into each others eyes, look into the soul. Allow heartgasms to happen. Allow cosmicgasms to happen. Be sexually/sensually divinely turned on by Love, by the resonance in your heart and full connection to cosmic and earth centered in your Antakarana/Rainbow Bridge, joined as one pillar of light.
Don’t be an orgasm addict, this is not a race; there is only the moment so don't try to heat things up; allow real passion of the moment from Divine Union, not from sexual excitation. Making love is about making love to make love, for love’s sake, not to get to some destination. Be in the moment of what you desire now, make love, make out, shnuggle, kiss forever… Don’t have orgasms, be the orgasm!
Make love and enjoy affection the way my cat does; totally surrender to receiving affection without feeling a need to reciprocate. Reciprocate when it is natural to do so. Totally surrender to receiving when it is time to receive. Totally surrender to giving when it is time to give.
Present all of you, allow everything to be there, fully present and with whatever is there. Be tantric, be intimate, be pure, be conscious, but give yourself permission to be an animal, to being lusty, the sex object; to being consciously unconscious; give yourself permission to being a balanced spiritual cosmic humanimal.
Enjoy all aspects of sexuality and sensuality. Be a conscious channel of love. Do not hesitate, there is nothing wrong with any expression of sexuality. Be as outrageous as you possibly can. Allow for total spontaneity, for anything to happen, to laugh, cry, grunt, squeel, fart, burp, tone, to experience all kinds of emotions and feelings. Allow any part of your body to be an erotic zone…; work with everything you experience in that moment; give yourself permission to stop, to change gears, to experience everything; to channel; to have a multidimensional experience; to be submissive; to be aggressive...
You will experience many initiations in your sexual relationships especially with partners you have had past lives with, especially in mystery schools and tantric temples. Allow yourself to release past sexual traumas, and to experience the emotions from these releases.
Love making is an honorable, beautiful, ecstatic expression of love and divinity. It is hugely important and it is also not such a big deal. We only make it a big deal because we are afraid of what it brings up for us. We are only afraid of it because we are afraid of the intimacy, and afraid of the love.
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